The Most Common Mistakes Women Make When They Pick Their Future Spouse and The Right Way to Do It
Posted: Tuesday, December 02, 2008
by Paul Friedman
Lessons For a Happy Marriage
If the divorce rate tells us anything it is that women have not chosen their life mate well. I have listed the three most common errors that women make. Dont become a divorce statistic. See if these common errors would be the ones you would make.
1) Is he drop-dead gorgeous? If he is remember that looks improve with love and diminish in importance over time. Dont even imagine that a mans looks has anything to do with what kind of husband he will be.
3) Is he romantic, socially graceful and generous? These are dating techniques used by savvy men. You are picking a husband and father for your kids; open your eyes. Social skills are learned skills. They have nothing to do with the mans inner strengths or weaknesses.
The above are the three biggest mistakes women make in picking a spouse.
The best way to pick a husband is by creating a list of all the favorable traits you can think of for your future husband. Then prioritize your list and challenge your top 10 selections. Make sure you are being practical because your future children depend on you doing a good job. And above all make sure you are being honest with yourself. If you think youre being shallow you probably are. If that is who you want to be it is okay. But think about the risks that come with choosing a book by its cover.
After you have completed your list of positive traits it is time to make a list of all of the traits you would find unacceptable. Scrutinize your lists and make sure they are accurate, in accordance with your tastes and values.
Remember that what you were doing is, in effect, ordering the husband of your choice. You are finding the future father for your children. Make sure they will have the best dad who ever lived, and you will have the best husband who ever lived.
Most men marry the first woman who will have them (sorry guys) so it is up to you to select a quality man and treat him right.
The final thing to do is to pray for guidance and protection. I think its a great idea to do the above with a sincere request for God to kill any deal that He thinks will not work well.
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